Host Family 101 - How To Make The Most Out Of Your Time With Them

Hello everyone! In today's post we will be talking about host families! How can you integrate yourself with them, understand them a little bit better and how to have a successful relationship with them!

Firstly you have to understand that the host families DON'T get paid to host you! They  are doing it because they want to learn more about other cultures and give a kid the opportunity to live abroad. Even though the situation can change from one host family to another, there are very few programs that do pay the families to host. Host families are willingly changing their lives for a year for you to be able to experience this! While you should NOT feel like a burden, because they chose you and enjoy having you there, having a gratitude mindset will take you a long way. 

Many people struggle with feeling comfortable at first with their families. This is a completely normal feeling! Keep in mind you just left everything you´ve known for years behind to start a new life. It's okay to be confused and not really know your role in the family dynamic yet. Some people figure it out ASAP but some need more time. The language barrier can also be a struggle at the beginning. While you may know the language, expressions,slang and inside jokes can be harder to identify at first. Be patient with yourself and remember that you WILL adapt but it takes some time. 

  Feeling at home can be complicated at the beginning, that's why spending time in the common areas is crucial. Get yourself to be comfortable with spending time in the living room, kitchen etc… If you spend all the time in your room then it's going to be hard to feel like you belong. By spending time with your family doing normal, everyday activities you will start to create that family bond. In addition to relaxing time in common areas try to be there for meals, especially if it's important for them! Some families really like having dinner together certain days a week, or on the weekends. Make time for those moments and not only will they appreciate it but you will feel like a part of them. It’s okay if sometimes you can’t make it, go out with friends etc… But try to find out what your family's traditions are surrounding meals and try to accommodate a little to them!

Lastly, communication is KEY. If you are unsure about something ask them! It’s normal to know a lot of the customs and habits at first, so instead of doing things blindly just ask them. They will be understandable and help you in the process of becoming part of the family. It’s also normal to not know a lot of the unspoken, social rules of the country. When you are out with your family ask them about it so you can keep learning those for when you are on your own!

Host families can be the deal maker or breaker of an exchange year. If it’s a good match you will finish your exchange year with 2 families instead of one. We will have more blogs and podcasts on host families, how to deal when confrontation arises etc… Enjoy and thanks for reading!